A class is not a parent.
Published on February 27, 2005 By greywar In Current Events

     Update : Commenters have yet to answer this question : Can you give me a good reason for a 9 year old to be in an Internet chat room? Can you?

     While there is still some confusion as to who Jessica's primary caregiver was (father or grandparents) I still find this distubing:

The sheriff says a computer in the girl's home is being examined for possible clues. She'd recently taken a computer safety class about the danger of meeting strangers in Internet chat rooms.

     Why would she be in internet chat rooms? Can anyone explain a good reason for a 9 year old to be in an internet chat room? At all? If you think that this is a good idea then you don't have a firm grasp of the way chat rooms work. There is NO WAY TO CHECK REAL AGES IN A CHAT ROOM AT ALL. Having your kids in a "kids only" chat room is like herding them into a petting zoo for pedophiles. If you allow your kid unsupervised Net access at this age you should be pronounced an unfit parent.  

     Classes like this simply induce a false sense of seurity as they reduce the dangers of Net access down to the level of say.... bicycle safety. It ain't even the same ballpark folks. Send them to the class and then you SIT BY THE FUCKING COMPUTER EVERY TIME THE ETHERNET CABLE IS IN IT. Don't like that? Tough shit. Guess you will just have to catch American Idol on TiVo unless thats too inconvienient for you?

 

 

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on Feb 27, 2005
I lean towards agreement with you. The older one (not even Jessica's age) only plays off-line computer games.
Cochise experiences some anxiety over this as well; he wants wireless internet, but is afraid the teenager will press for connectivity in her room. He prefers to be able to supervise her on the comp in his room.
on Feb 27, 2005
"She'd recently taken a computer safety class about the danger of meeting strangers in Internet chat rooms."


Note it didn't say she hangs out in them, just that she had taken a class. My daughter is in third grade and she got the same instruction, and has never in her life even seen an internet chatroom.

I have login passwords set, no browser shortcuts, no chat room bookmarks, basically no way at all for my daughter to use/abuse the internet, but I feel quite certain that they'd study my computers heavily. I'd think they were doing a shoddy job if they didn't.

I think it is way too early to be passing any kind of judgement. This isn't the Cleaver family, by any means, but honestly it's gotten too easy to start picking at the family. Elizabeth Smart should have been a damn good example of that.
on Feb 27, 2005

Note it didn't say she hangs out in them, just that she had taken a class.

Note that it does say they are searching her computer for leads which they would be done with in about 2 seconds if she wasn't using it for just such activity. It takes very little time to search through email and chat logs or trails when she wasn't chatting or emailing. Takes a ton of time if she was. Since they had time to report it several times over 2 days I think we can safely assume that she did in fact have the aformentioned access.

As for making judgements? I think we can safely say that whoever was responsible for this child screwed the pooch miserably.

on Feb 27, 2005
"I think we can safely say that whoever was responsible for this child screwed the pooch miserably.


I usually agree with you grey, but that is an insensitive, asinine statement unworthy of you. You know *dick* about these people and their situation. You have just heard a bunch of stuff that may or may not even be true. The police often on purpose or by accident release false information.

Richard Jewell was screwed hard by the police. The Smart family had to put up with the police leaking that the screen in their daughter's window was cut to make it look like an intruder, etc. Read into it all you like, but after watching people online grill the Smart family for weeks, I tend to be a bit dubious about armchair Columbos...

A complete forensic search of a computer doesn't take 2 seconds, since local law enforcement doesn't usually have the ability. Working in security, I have trolled hard drives for deleted items, and found stuff literally from years before. To look in a couple of folders and call it quits wouldn't be a real investigation.



Give the people a break, they have lost their daughter. What has been released isn't enough to make any determination about their negligence, and even if it was I think it would be crass to play court TV at this point...
on Feb 27, 2005

Give the people a break

They may in fact deserve a break Baker and if the case bears that out you can certainly count on me topost an article to that effect but everything I have seen reported to date has pointed to a few simple things : the child was taken from an unlocked house and apparently had unsupervised net access which is the point of the article. If she has unsupervised net access then the parents should be held liable even after the return of their daughter. If not then great! Note the IF in both statements.

     All of my posts regarding this have been based on current reporting and inteviews with her father... What else am I supposed to go off of? SHould I wait until 10 months from now to start a discussion fo the matter to make sure I have all the facts? What would be the point of that?

I have a daughter and her access to the Net is carefully monitored by her mother. I think the classes are a good thing if they don't substitute for supervision. I could be ENTIRELY wrong about every thing in this case but I bet that I am not. If I am though I promise a post saying so. Good enough?
on Feb 27, 2005
"What else am I supposed to go off of? SHould I wait until 10 months from now to start a discussion fo the matter to make sure I have all the facts? What would be the point of that?"


The point would be tact; the point would be a smidgen of personal responsiblity. The point would be not pre-judging people probably suffering the worst possible loss based upon a few scattered details. The point would be rising above the tabloid, court TV bullshit that is S.O.P for cretinous, Jerry Springer America.
on Feb 27, 2005

the point would be a

The point is that kids in chatrooms is stupid and irresponsible. The case simply provides a backdrop for that issue for me. Apparently it is another issue for you. I can accept that.

The point would be tact;

Well I admit to a lack of that. Like I said, I will retract if it comes out that none of this is true... on my front page unlike the MSM paper policy of burying theirs. Sorry if this offends you Baker but my points stand.


 

on Feb 27, 2005
The point is that kids in chatrooms is stupid and irresponsible.


True. I think allowing kids to skydive without parachutes would be irresponsible too. From the article you linked, I don't see that they have done either.

Here's all I can find:

"The sheriff says a computer in the girl's home is being examined for possible clues. She'd recently taken a computer safety class about the danger of meeting strangers in Internet chat rooms. "



It says "the girl's home". How you gather from that that she'd been in chat rooms on a computer unsupervised, I have no clue. If there is some other link, please, please post it.

A Google news search of "Jessica Lunsford Chat" brings up nada that says anything about her using chatrooms. The search "Jessica Lunsford unsupervised" doesn't bring up anything either.

I'd just like to know how you know she had unsupervised access to chatrooms.
on Feb 27, 2005
I'd just like to know how you know she had unsupervised access to chatrooms.


I don't know anything. FOX reported yesterday about the cops being suspicious that she was taken by a Net aqquaintance which prompted the first articl and the second was prompted as a followup by the article linked. If it ends up that it had nothing to do with her abduction so be it. But the reporting so far has held that up as the only lead whatsoever in the case. Frankly it is possible (but unlikely at this point) that she just wandered off or that a total stranger randomly picked her house out of all the others and that she went without a whisper. I just don't think thats the way it went down.

I probably should have couched this issue with less focus on these parents in particular I grant you. Doesn't make the issue less valid though.
on Feb 27, 2005
To me, it is no different than you saying "How dare they sell her into white slavery, IF that is what they did..."

There's nothign there to say she had any "net acquaintences" at all. For all we know they used the same precautions on their computer as the rest of us do, especially considering the police would be obliged to check the computer either way. Like I said, my daughter had the same instruction at school and has never seen a chatroom.

It is the 24hour news pundits that keep this crap going. They don't have any real details to talk about, so they make up some and tag a lot of IFs on to cover their asses. Then, the parents have to listen to people talk about how they MIGHT have been personally responsible for what has happened to their child. Makes for a good day, I bet...
on Feb 27, 2005
darn double posts
on Feb 27, 2005

It is the 24hour news pundits that keep this crap going.

Well if the news is not a topic fit for discussion or info where would you suggest we get it from? Again you have not answered the main thrust of the articles : Is there a good reason for a 9 year old to be in a chatroom? Ever?

Like I said earlier I should have phrased the issues differently perhaps but I don't go back and change my articles to make myself seem more sensitive than I was... Ready to discuss the issue I brought up about kids and the Net now?

on Feb 27, 2005
"Well if the news is not a topic fit for discussion or info where would you suggest we get it from? "


The problem isn't news, it is pundit discussion mistaken for news. 99% of 24 hour news now is opinion, not fact.

"Ready to discuss the issue I brought up about kids and the Net now?"


You seemed to be up in arms about the fact a 9 year old had been in an internet chat room. I don't see anything here saying that she had been.

As for the class, kids need to be taught early what the dangers are, so that they will know ahead of time. Sure, you can keep a 9 year old off the internet, but if you think for a moment you can keep a savvy 14 year old off it you are nuts.

Just because you sit with them at home doesn't mean that they don't get access at school or anywhere else. What these classes teach is the same thing you are ranting about.
on Mar 05, 2005
I can see you are not too concerned. Maybe you are the person we need to look into.
on Mar 22, 2005
Isn't it time, now, given what we know of what happened to this girl, to admit that all the crass speculation and condemntation of her family was unwarrented and unfair? Isn't it time to step back and say maybe we should wait until there are facts available, and not speculate?
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